December 07, 2003

who will it be, if any, who will be with me?

Here I am, at 6:30 am on a Sunday, pondering the possible identity of my future partner, supposing of course that I ever partake of that privilage. It is not something that I have ever spent much time considering. Hmmph, I have for most of my life strongly advocated the position that I should be prepared for the potential possibility that I may remain single.

Yet, here in the last year I have found myself yearning for some one to share life with. I hold myself true to my commitment to stay focused on my relationship with God over girls, but I still find myself looking at potential prospects with a measuring eye, wondering if they are the perfect person that God planned for me. I find myself articulating to myself what I am looking for in a life-partner, reading over Proverbs 31 and trying to figure out that obscure image of the perfect mate. I AM looking for a 31 caliber woman, but I am sure there are more than one out there, so I also find myself wondering what other things should distinguish this one person from among the many. The many. Hmm, I say that, but in my whole life I have met but a handful. Of those, only a few in my age bracket, and of those even less that I could envision myself actually marrying. Maybe that will be the distinguishing mark. Maybe not.

What am I looking for? A 31 caliber woman. One who fears the Lord above all else. One who walks humbly before her God. One who knows how to listen and when to talk. One who seeks after truth. One who is patient and wise. One who is strong and kind. One who has high virtue and honor. A good steward. One whose standards I will not easily meet. A 31 caliber woman. Do I know any of these? Maybe, we shall see.

While I am waiting, I will continue watching, looking for that one. Praying for her. And trying to become the Man of God that she deserves.

Posted by GodzScout at December 7, 2003 08:04 AM

I hear you. It's something I've been pondering a great deal lately, and I've come to some of the same conclusions as you.

- A woman of character
- A woman of growing faith in God
- A woman I find attractive
- A woman whom I can minister with (in whatever purpose God has put before my life)
- A woman who I can spur on and be spurred on by in relationship with God

The "distinguishing mark" is difficult to find though. For some people it seems to be some sort of "love at first site". For others, a romantic spark that is lit off at some point.

As for me, I'm not sure what it'll be at the end if/when marriage culminates.

Posted by: Cal at December 7, 2003 11:40 PM

I gave this whole issue to God for I trust in His timing and plan. I put my focus on philippians 4:6-7

Posted by: jms at December 8, 2003 01:40 AM

I wouldn't mind having a sister-in-law sometime and cousins for my children, but I will wait for God's timing for you and Jason to find the women He has for both of you. This was somewhat of a surprise to me to read this since I'm not used to hearing you talk of a future wife very much.

Posted by: Julie at December 8, 2003 08:19 PM

don't get too excited, dear sis. I still have 1.5 years of promised singleness to go, and Jason isn't having any luck either.


Posted by: Read at December 9, 2003 12:16 AM

Proverbs 3:5-6 is a good focus.

Posted by: jms at December 9, 2003 12:37 AM

there are a great many Scripture that talk to this subject, to list them all would require more time than I have at my disposal.

Posted by: Read at December 9, 2003 12:48 AM

Happy is the husband of a good wife: for the number of his years is double.

A virtuous woman rejoiceth her husband, and shall fulfil the years of his life in peace.

Posted by: Jon M. at December 12, 2003 10:47 AM